Getting great pleasure from sex is necessary to maintain our overall well being. Having great sex is more about being present in the moment and practicing sexual self acceptance, and not by judging your sexual self or your sexual experiences. Here’s how you can help cultivate a sexual pleasure mindset when making love, according to Psychology Today:

1. Love Your Body

It’s important to learn to love your body – exactly as it is. By practicing radical self-acceptance and becoming curious about your own sexuality, and finding what turns you on, you can learn your own unique “erotic fingerprint” and embrace it, whatever it may be. Go with the moment, and allow the moment be what it is.

2. Listen to Your Body

Sex isn’t a spectator sport, listen to what your body wants and is telling you during sex. Be completely aware of what pleases you and where you like to be touched. Paying attention to all your sexual sensations is the key for having pleasurable sex. Make subtle changes to your sexual habits in bed to explore new ways to be turned on.

3. Take Your Time

Don’t begin intercourse until you (and/or your partner) are sufficiently aroused. Slow down, embrace the moment, and let your sexual feelings build up, and don’t be concerned about the end result. Don’t rush your sexual climax.

4. Connect With Your Partner

Great sex is connected sex. Photo by Saulius Rozanas.

Great sex is connected sex. Go beyond what just words can convey and connect with your partner intimately by looking into his or her eyes, or simply laying down and breathing together in rhythm. See, and connect with, the person you fell in love with. Be together and present in the same moment.

5. Don’t Play it Safe

Don’t shut down and stagnate, but instead explore your erotic self. Awaken and liberate your true sexual potential by allowing your ever-changing thoughts, fears, feelings, and fantasies to invigorate and stimulate your sex life. Don’t feel judged or worried by speaking up, there is a risk to not taking risks.

6. Have More Sex

We all get caught up in the 9-5 lifestyle or let other external influences interrupt our sex lifes. Make more time for sex, prioritize it. Sexual pleasure from love making is a journey that should never end.

7. Embrace Your Emotions

Sexual experiences can revitalize your mind, body, and emotional well-being. Sex is a direct connection with another person, learn to accept your own feelings as well as the feelings of others. Also learn to accept your own intense feelings of pleasure – even if they sometimes seem to be out of control. Be present in the moment and allow your feelings to be what they are.